{"id":166,"date":"2018-04-05T16:01:18","date_gmt":"2018-04-05T20:01:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/chapter\/belief-cycle\/"},"modified":"2018-09-04T13:53:55","modified_gmt":"2018-09-04T17:53:55","slug":"belief-cycle","status":"publish","type":"chapter","link":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/chapter\/belief-cycle\/","title":{"raw":"Belief Cycle","rendered":"Belief Cycle"},"content":{"raw":"Each of us has core values, beliefs, and attitudes about conflict based on early life experiences that affect how we perceive the world and other people. Many of our behaviours in conflict are based on these perceptions and are often automatic, regardless of their effectiveness.\r\n\r\nNate Booth\u2019s (1997, p.49) belief cycle below demonstrates how core values, beliefs, and attitudes lead to focus and meaning in conflict, which then leads to emotions, actions and results.\r\n\r\nIn conflict, as in other times of stress, beliefs are powerful because they set in process a certain cycle:\r\n<ul>\r\n \t<li>Our beliefs focus our attention on certain \u201cevents\u201d in our world.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>We give meaning to these events, turning them into triggers.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>The triggers cause a physiological response, which is sensed as emotion.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>Based on the emotion, we take action.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>The actions we take result in a response from others.<\/li>\r\n \t<li>This response reinforces our original belief.<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5.png\"><img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-164\" src=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-1024x741.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"362\" \/><\/a>\r\n<h1>Belief Cycle Examples<\/h1>\r\n<p class=\"ManualBullet-Arrows\">The following examples of values, beliefs, and attitudes about conflict demonstrate how the belief cycle would play out in each conflict situation.<\/p>\r\n\r\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 1:<\/strong><\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes -<\/strong> Conflict is wrong. I shouldn\u2019t be negative.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses -<\/strong> Pretend nothing is wrong.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences -<\/strong> Tension and cool distance between parties. Something is wrong in the relationship.<\/span><\/div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 2:<\/strong><\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes -<\/strong> Conflict means loss. I have to get my way.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses <\/strong>- Argue your point until the other caves in or walks away.<\/span>\r\n<strong>Results\/consequences -<\/strong> Conflict escalates, relationships are damaged, and outcomes are in jeopardy. Conflict is loss.<\/span><\/div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 3:<\/strong><\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes -<\/strong> Conflict means our relationship is in jeopardy.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses -<\/strong> Let other people have their way so we can get along.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences -<\/strong> Buried resentment. Conflict has put our relationship in jeopardy.<\/span><\/div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 4:<\/strong><\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes -<\/strong> Working out conflicts takes too much time and energy.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses -<\/strong> Look for the quickest available solution.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences -<\/strong> Conflict is fixed temporarily, but comes up repeatedly, taking more time and energy.<\/span><\/div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 5:<\/strong><\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes -<\/strong> Conflict is a normal part of being human.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses -<\/strong> Say what you need to say and listen to the other side.<\/span>\r\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences -<\/strong> Conflict is normalized and resolved.<\/span><\/div>\r\nWhen caught in a negative belief cycle, one needs to change either one\u2019s belief or one\u2019s behaviour in order to get a different result, and thus break the cycle.\r\n\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<\/div>\r\n<h1>Conflict Development<\/h1>\r\nMany people have negative attitudes toward conflict, and try to avoid it. Some perceive conflict and change as threatening, and try to resist it. For some, peace and harmony are held up as ideals. This desire for peace and harmony often symbolizes a desire for others to hold the same values, interests, and needs as ours. Paradoxically, this kind of thinking often generates conflict, since it doesn\u2019t allow for the many real differences in needs and interests among individuals, systems, and cultures.\r\n\r\nThe desire for life to remain the same is unrealistic. Life is not static. Everything changes and develops\u2014the seasons, our minds and bodies, our circumstances and our nature. Attempting to keep change from occurring creates its own dynamics for conflict. Phases of conflict are as natural as phases of peace and harmony, and all are temporary states.\r\n\r\nMany theories of conflict are based on cycles of change that demonstrate how conflicts emerge and resolve. As Barbara Coloroso states, \u201cConflict is a normal, natural and necessary part of our lives. Conflict is inevitable in our homes, schools, workplaces, and communities, and so is the pain and discomfort that goes along with it. But conflict can be resolved and made less painful if it is dealt with directly, curatively, responsibly, and non-violently\u2014not passively or aggressively\u201d. (Coloroso, 2002, p.100)\r\n<p class=\"ManualBullet-Arrows\">Conflict can actually strengthen ongoing relationships. The true test of the parties\u2019 investment and dedication to a relationship with each other can never be tested until it goes through some kind of challenge, or conflict. If you and I go through a conflict together successfully, we know we can trust that our relationship is strong enough to withstand conflict. Because we can \u201cdo\u201d conflict together, it is not as scary or threatening when it occurs, as it will in every relationship periodically.<\/p>\r\n<p class=\"ManualText\">Thinking of conflict in this way, we could actually weaken and deprive our relationship of being strengthened by avoiding, placating or overbearing others to \u201cwin\u201d when conflict arises.<\/p>\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s.png\"><img src=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-165\" \/><\/a>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">The Evolution of Conflict Development<\/p>","rendered":"<p>Each of us has core values, beliefs, and attitudes about conflict based on early life experiences that affect how we perceive the world and other people. Many of our behaviours in conflict are based on these perceptions and are often automatic, regardless of their effectiveness.<\/p>\n<p>Nate Booth\u2019s (1997, p.49) belief cycle below demonstrates how core values, beliefs, and attitudes lead to focus and meaning in conflict, which then leads to emotions, actions and results.<\/p>\n<p>In conflict, as in other times of stress, beliefs are powerful because they set in process a certain cycle:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Our beliefs focus our attention on certain \u201cevents\u201d in our world.<\/li>\n<li>We give meaning to these events, turning them into triggers.<\/li>\n<li>The triggers cause a physiological response, which is sensed as emotion.<\/li>\n<li>Based on the emotion, we take action.<\/li>\n<li>The actions we take result in a response from others.<\/li>\n<li>This response reinforces our original belief.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-164\" src=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-1024x741.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"362\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-1024x741.png 1024w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-300x217.png 300w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-768x555.png 768w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-65x47.png 65w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-225x163.png 225w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p5-350x253.png 350w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h1>Belief Cycle Examples<\/h1>\n<p class=\"ManualBullet-Arrows\">The following examples of values, beliefs, and attitudes about conflict demonstrate how the belief cycle would play out in each conflict situation.<\/p>\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 1:<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict is wrong. I shouldn\u2019t be negative.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses &#8211;<\/strong> Pretend nothing is wrong.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences &#8211;<\/strong> Tension and cool distance between parties. Something is wrong in the relationship.<\/span><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 2:<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict means loss. I have to get my way.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses <\/strong>&#8211; Argue your point until the other caves in or walks away.<\/span><br \/>\n<strong>Results\/consequences &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict escalates, relationships are damaged, and outcomes are in jeopardy. Conflict is loss.<\/span><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 3:<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict means our relationship is in jeopardy.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses &#8211;<\/strong> Let other people have their way so we can get along.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences &#8211;<\/strong> Buried resentment. Conflict has put our relationship in jeopardy.<\/span><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 4:<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes &#8211;<\/strong> Working out conflicts takes too much time and energy.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses &#8211;<\/strong> Look for the quickest available solution.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict is fixed temporarily, but comes up repeatedly, taking more time and energy.<\/span><\/div>\n<div>\n<div class=\"textbox learning-objectives\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Example 5:<\/strong><\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Beliefs, values, attitudes &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict is a normal part of being human.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Actions\/responses &#8211;<\/strong> Say what you need to say and listen to the other side.<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><strong>Results\/consequences &#8211;<\/strong> Conflict is normalized and resolved.<\/span><\/div>\n<p>When caught in a negative belief cycle, one needs to change either one\u2019s belief or one\u2019s behaviour in order to get a different result, and thus break the cycle.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<h1>Conflict Development<\/h1>\n<p>Many people have negative attitudes toward conflict, and try to avoid it. Some perceive conflict and change as threatening, and try to resist it. For some, peace and harmony are held up as ideals. This desire for peace and harmony often symbolizes a desire for others to hold the same values, interests, and needs as ours. Paradoxically, this kind of thinking often generates conflict, since it doesn\u2019t allow for the many real differences in needs and interests among individuals, systems, and cultures.<\/p>\n<p>The desire for life to remain the same is unrealistic. Life is not static. Everything changes and develops\u2014the seasons, our minds and bodies, our circumstances and our nature. Attempting to keep change from occurring creates its own dynamics for conflict. Phases of conflict are as natural as phases of peace and harmony, and all are temporary states.<\/p>\n<p>Many theories of conflict are based on cycles of change that demonstrate how conflicts emerge and resolve. As Barbara Coloroso states, \u201cConflict is a normal, natural and necessary part of our lives. Conflict is inevitable in our homes, schools, workplaces, and communities, and so is the pain and discomfort that goes along with it. But conflict can be resolved and made less painful if it is dealt with directly, curatively, responsibly, and non-violently\u2014not passively or aggressively\u201d. (Coloroso, 2002, p.100)<\/p>\n<p class=\"ManualBullet-Arrows\">Conflict can actually strengthen ongoing relationships. The true test of the parties\u2019 investment and dedication to a relationship with each other can never be tested until it goes through some kind of challenge, or conflict. If you and I go through a conflict together successfully, we know we can trust that our relationship is strong enough to withstand conflict. Because we can \u201cdo\u201d conflict together, it is not as scary or threatening when it occurs, as it will in every relationship periodically.<\/p>\n<p class=\"ManualText\">Thinking of conflict in this way, we could actually weaken and deprive our relationship of being strengthened by avoiding, placating or overbearing others to \u201cwin\u201d when conflict arises.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"500\" height=\"500\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-165\" srcset=\"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s.png 500w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s-65x65.png 65w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s-225x225.png 225w, https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/334\/2018\/04\/CRES-1101-Foundations_15thEd-May-2017-p7-s-350x350.png 350w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 500px) 100vw, 500px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\">The Evolution of Conflict Development<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":31,"menu_order":4,"template":"","meta":{"pb_show_title":"on","pb_short_title":"","pb_subtitle":"","pb_authors":[],"pb_section_license":""},"chapter-type":[47],"contributor":[],"license":[],"class_list":["post-166","chapter","type-chapter","status-publish","hentry","chapter-type-standard"],"part":159,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/166","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/chapter"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/31"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/166\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":276,"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/166\/revisions\/276"}],"part":[{"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/parts\/159"}],"metadata":[{"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapters\/166\/metadata\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=166"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"chapter-type","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/pressbooks\/v2\/chapter-type?post=166"},{"taxonomy":"contributor","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/contributor?post=166"},{"taxonomy":"license","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/pressbooks.bccampus.ca\/cres1100\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/license?post=166"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}